Welcome to MEND

MEND  is a group programme to help men stop being violent/abusive towards their partners located in Carlow/Kilkenny, South Tipperary, Waterford and Wexford. It also provides a service for the partners or ex-partners of the men on the programme and is coordinated by the South East Domestic Violence Intervention Programme (S.E.D.V.I.P)

Are you worried about your behaviour towards you partner?
Have you been violent or abusive?
Do you shout at her a lot?
Is she ever scared of you?

Have you engaged in ....

Physical abuse
Pushing, shoving, hitting, bruising, choking, punching, kicking or any act that results in a physical injury to your partner or ex-partner.

Sexual Abuse
Forced sex, raped, pressured her for sex, used sex to control, expectations around sexual entitlement or punished her for not participating in sexual acts.

Mental and Emotional Abuse
Telling her she is usless, a bad mother, preventing her from seeing her friends and family, using jealousy to control, accusing her of infidelity of blaming her for your behaviour.

Threats and Intimidation
Threatening to harm her, the children or yourself if she leaves, saying that the children will be taken from her if she leaves.

Damaging/ destroying property
Breaking and smashing objects in anger. This is another way of controlling your partner through fear.

Financial Abuse
Witholding money,controlling how money is spent, making her ask for money or probhibiting her from working

If you use these behaviours towards your partner, you are engaging in acts of Domestic Violence

Help is available

Q. Where can I get help?
A. From the four MEND Programmes in Carlow/Kilkenny, South Tipperary, Waterford and Wexford run by the SEDVIP.

Q. What is the MEND Programme?
A. MEN ENDing Domestic Abuse is a group Programme which works with men to help then become non-abusive in their family relationships their partners or ex-partners.

Q. How can MEND help me?
A. By assisting you to understand your violence and change it through group work sessions.

Q. How Do I find out more.
A. By contacting the following in your area

     Carlow/Kilkenny 086-8751131    9.30 to 5p.m

     South Tipperary  087-9156632    9.30 to 5p.m

     Waterford            086-8167798    9.30 to 5p.m

     Wexford;             Phil 053-9142076 or Andrew 086-1075449 9.30 to 5.00pm

Domestic Violence is a Crime

WE BELIEVE.......

• that the SAFETY OF PARTNERS AND CHILDREN IS OUR PRIORITY when working with men who are violent.
• that domestic violence and abuse are never acceptable.
• that men must first take personal responsibility for their violence and abuse in order to change.
• that domestic violence and abuse includes physical, emotional, sexual and economic abuse used to maintain power and control.
• that violence is a learned behaviour which can be unlearned.
• that VIOLENT MEN CAN CHANGE and END THEIR VIOLENCE.

Living Without Violence

This service is for men who want to change their abusive behaviour and to learn how to have relationships that are based on love and trust and not on power and control.

Meetings will be held in a non judgemental setting for men who want to change their behaviour and improve their relationships. Men will be challenged about their abusive behaviour and supported to make changes that will keep their partners or ex-partners, their children and themselves safe.

Meetings will be held once a week and there is no cost to attend this service. Partners and ex-partners will also be contacted and offered support by trained Partner Support facilitators.

Information for Partners

If you are or have been in a violent / abusive relationship, here are aome useful contacts.

• Rape Crisis Centres:
  Carlow and South Leinster Rape Crisis & Counselling Service
  72 Tullow St, Carlow.
  Tel: 059 913 3807. Fax: 059 913 3344. Helpline: 1800 72 7737
  Email: southleinsterrapecc@eircom.net
• Refuges/Support Services
  Carlow Women’s Aid. Tel: 059 917 3552. Freephone: 1800 444 944.
  Email: carlowwomensaid@hotmail.com
  
• Garda Síochána
  Green Park Rd, Carlow.
  Tel: 059 913 6620. Emergencies dial 999/112
  
• HSE South Hospitals
  St Luke’s General Hospital, Kilkenny.
  Tel: 056 778 5000. Fax: 056 772 1149
  
• Legal Aid Board – Law Centres
  District court office, Court House, Carlow
  Tel: 059 915 3100. Fax: 059 913 1325
  Email: carlowdc@courts.ie
  
• HSE Community Services
  Tel: 059 913 6520
  
• Citizens Information Centres
  St Catherine’s Social Services Centre
  Tel: 059 913 8750
  
• Local Authorities
  Tel: 059 917 0300
  
• Money Advice and Budgeting Service(MABS)
  Tel: 059 914 0977
  
• Probation Service
  059 913 5186
  

Kilkenny Services

• Rape Crisis Centres
  Kilkenny Rape and Sexual Abuse Counselling Centre.
  Tel: 056 775 1555. Fax: 056 775 1555. Helpline: 1800 478 478
  Email: kkrcc@eircom.net
• Refuges/Support Services
  Amber Women’s Refuge Project. Tel: 056 777 1404. Freephone: 1850 424 244
  Email: kwrp@eircom.net
• Garda Síochána
  Kilkenny
  Tel: 056 772 2222
  Emergencies dial 999/112
• HSE South Hospitals
  St Luke’s General Hospital, Kilkenny.
  Tel: 056 778 5000. Fax: 056 772 1149
• Legal Aid Board – Law Centres
  Kilkenny
  Tel: 056 776 1611
• District Court Offices
  Kilkenny
  Tel: 056 772 1019
• HSE Community Services
  Kilkenny
  Tel: 056 775 2208
• Citizens Information Centres
  4 The Parade, Co Kilkenny.
  Tel: 056 776 2755
• Local Authorities
  Kilkenny
  Tel: 056 775 2699
• Money Advice and Budgeting Service(MABS)
  Kilkenny
  Tel: 056 776 1777
• Probation Service
  Kilkenny
  Tel: 056 776 5201
  
  

Tipperary Services

• Rape Crisis Centres
  Tipperary Rape Crisis & Counselling Service.
  Tel: 052 27676. Fax: 052 29171. Helpline: 1800 340 340.
  Email: trcc@eircom.net
• Refuges/Support Services
  Cuan Saor, Clonmel.
  Tel: 052 57575. Freephone: 1800 576 757.
  Email: cuansaor@eircom.net
• Knockanrawley Resoure Centre.
  Tel: 062 52688.
  Email: knockanrawley@eircom.net
• Garda Síochána
  South Tipperary
  Tel: 052 77640.
  Emergencies dial 999/112
• HSE South Hospitals
  South Tipperary General Hospital, Clonmel, Co. Tipperary.
  Tel: 052 77000. Fax: 052 77161
• Legal Aid Board – Law Centres
  South Tipperary
  Tel: 067 31481 (part time)
• District Court Offices
  South Tipperary – Tel: 052 29220
• HSE Community Services
  South Tipperary
  Tel: 052 77000
• Citizens Information Centres
  South Tipperary
  Market Place, Clonmel.
  Tel: 052 22267
  34/35 Croke St, Thurles.
  Tel: 0504 22399
• Local Authorities
  South Tipperary
  Tel: 052 34455
• Money Advice and Budgeting Service(MABS)
  South Tipperary
  Tel: 052 29313/ 062 33410
• Probation Service
  South Tipperary
  Tel: 052 23880
  

Waterford Services

• Rape Crisis Centre
  Waterford Rape & Sexual Abuse Centre.
  Tel: 051 873 362. Fax: 051 850 717. Helpline: 1800 296 296. Email: wrcc@indigo.ie
• Refuges/Support Services
  Oasis House Women’s Refuge.
  Tel: 051 370 367. Freephone: 1800 264 364.
  Email: oasishouse2@eircom.net
• Support Services for Men
  The Men's Development Network Ltd
  30 O'Connell Street
  Waterford
  Tel: 051 844 260/1
  Email: men@mens-network.net
• Garda Síochána
  Waterford
  Tel: 051 305 300.
  Emergencies dial 999/112
• HSE South Hospitals
  Waterford Regional Hospital.
  Tel: 051 848 000. Fax: 051 848 572
• Legal Aid Board – Law Centres
  Tel: 051 855 814
• District Court Offices
  Tel: 051 874 657/ 872 768
• HSE Community Services
  Tel: 051 842 800
• Citizens Information Centres
  St Bridget’s Social Services Centre.
  Tel: 051 351 133
• Local Authorities
  Waterford
  Tel: 051 309 900
  Dungarven
  Tel: 058 22000
• Money Advice and Budgeting Service(MABS)
  Waterford
  Tel: 051 857 929
  Dungarven
  Tel: 058 44922
• Probation Service
  Tel: 051 872 548

• Refuge Helpline Wexford
  053-912 1876/Freephone 1800 220 444
• Garda Siochana
  053 916 5200/Emergency 999/112
• Rape and Sexual Abuse Support Service
  053 912 2722 Freephone 1800 330 033
• Community Care Services
  (Social Worker, Public Health Nurse, Community Welfare Officer ) 053 912 3522
• Legal Aid Board and Law Centre
  053-912 2622
• Money, Advice and Budgeting Service (MABS)
  053-912 1504
• Probation Service
  053 914 2076
• Citizen Information Centre
  Henrietta St. Wexford 053 914 2012
• District Court Office
  Wexford 053 912 2097